Why I practice

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I have been practicing yoga for 18 years, and meditating for 8 years…I’ve gone in waves of being super diligent in my practice…to completely blowing it off. And, I can ABSOLUTELY tell when I’ve been blowing it off. It’s when I’m NOT practicing that I REALLY understand the reasons why I practice…because the benefits are present when I am being present, and practicing daily.

Here are 3 BIG reasons why I practice:

  1. Less anxiety. This is my absolute #1 reason for both meditation and yoga practice….but ESPECIALLY meditation. I suffered with anxiety for YEARS without even knowing it…until I started meditating. I realized that with a daily meditation practice, the anxiety that has been a constant in my life isn’t there in the way that it used to be. The constant buzz of nerves I felt in my belly (for YEARS without realizing it) goes away when I practice. I now can actually FEEL the anxiety coming on, and have the opportunity to respond to it in a different way…which has absolutely changed my life (I know, I KNOW…this sounds pretty dramatic, but it has been truly life altering!!)

  2. Greater strength. Another biggie. The physical strength that comes from my yoga practice isn’t even as important as the INNER STRENGTH that comes from both yoga and meditation. My practice leaves me feeling empowered.

  3. More self-compassion. So, with yoga I’ve learned over the years to be ok with falling out of tree pose, or my tumultuous relationship with shoulderstand. Truly, I’m ok with it…some days I nail the poses, and some days I don’t. With meditation, I’m ok with the monkey mind…and I can see when my super-judgmental thoughts creep in about it. The biggest benefits come from paying attention without judgement. I think this is why, when I’m not on the mat, or meditation bench, that I’ve gotten so much better with self-compassion.

Does any of this ring true for you? Why do you practice? I’d love to know! Leave your comments below!

Love after love

Derek Walcott poem

Love yourself…it’s going to be ok.

I adore everything about this poem by Derek Walcott:

Love After Love

The time will come

when, with elation,

you will greet yourself arriving

at your own door, in your own mirror,

and each will smile at the other's welcome

and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again the stranger who was your self.

Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart

to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you have ignored

for another, who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,

peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life.

- Derek Walcott, Collected Poems 1948-1984, New York, Farrar Straus Giroux, 1986.

finding balance.

balance, equinox, partner yoga

The spring equinox is Wednesday, March 20th….let me tell you…my hippy-people LOVE this stuff! If you go to a yoga class this week, chances are, you’ll hear something about the moon or the equinox.

So, what does this REALLY mean? Well, the equinox is a time when we have almost equal amounts of day and night, right?! Whether or not you believe in the energetic qualities of the different moon phases or seasons, I think it’s a GREAT time to reflect on balance.

You COULD consider grabbing a partner and doing some snazzy yoga-balance poses (like the pic above)…

I’d like to ask you: HOW are you finding balance in your life?…and ARE you finding balance in your life? I’m talking about the balance between DOING and BEING.

We can get so caught up in constantly DOING…that we miss out on the BEING part. I get it! We get super busy! How can you find balance, then? Here are some ideas:

  1. Self care. Take time to take care of YOU. In whatever way that may be.

  2. Get out in nature. If you think my people like moon phases…don’t get us started about EARTHING! Take your shoes off, and walk through the grass, or sand, or anywhere for that matter! Or go for a hike!

  3. Turn off your phone. Pay attention to what is going on around you. Truly be there for each experience you are having.

  4. Meditate. Even if for a few minutes. Take some time to pay attention to your breath.

What do you do to find some balance in your busy life? I’d love to hear them!!

#blessed

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Thought I’d repost this from a few years ago:

3 ways you can be TRULY blessed.

A friend got a holiday card she shared with me a few years ago, and it went like this: "We are so BLESSED" it said..."*Mike got a huge promotion at work, we took a 2 week family vacation to France, and bought his & hers Audis"...it went on to talk about their gifted children and all of their accomplishments ad nauseum.

Cringeworthy...am I right?!

It's great when friends find financial success, are proud of their kids, and get to take trips and buy things. I love to hear about all the exciting stuff in their lives....but it's NOT because they are blessed!

  1. Keep your #blessed about people, not things: You are truly blessed to have people you love in your life. Your family, your friends, your spouse/partner/loved ones.

  2. Just be yourself! You've got this. You are already blessed. Being blessed isn't happening when there is no adversity in your life, you have all of life's wonder and grace with you already.

  3. Be humble. I'm not talking about the humble brag (like, "I can't believe parking is $24 for my 90 min. yoga class. #cityliving"). It's difficult to find true humbleness in the world of selfies...when we constantly share our joys and accomplishments on social media...but a humble person is helpful, conscious of others, and kind. Try it!

So, go about your day with this true feeling of being blessed...and possibly re-think that holiday card you were planning on sending out.

*not his real name!

to go into the dark...

Wendell Berry poem

Wendell Berry poem

Sometimes…the darkness can be our teacher. I adore this poem…and heard it first while on a silent retreat in Italy.

To go into the dark with a light

is to know the light.

To know the dark, go dark,

go without sight.

And find

that the dark too

blooms and sings

and is traveled by dark feet and dark wings.

-- Wendell Berry



What’s up with crystals anyway?!

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…the New Age phenomenon beloved by white girls everywhere. –Katherine Gillespie

I set out to write about crystals, and their energy…and how different crystals can help different issues you may want addressed. I thought I’d attempt to demystify them…and went on to research each crystal, and how they can be healing….

Well…GUESS what I found?! The “healing energy” in crystals is no more healing that a placebo! Yep. Maybe this doesn’t come as a surprise to you. Apparently, the healing powers of crystals is just bullsh!t. Sigh. My hippie ways are being crushed right now.

I love crystals. I think they are gorgeous additions to my yoga/meditation space…I may or may not have bought a stone or two based on their energetic qualities. I will neither confirm nor deny spending money on malas based on the stone’s energetic qualities.

So, this placebo effect. It’s definitely a thing! Studies show that the placebo effect can change your brain. There is definitely a power in THINKING that you will feel grounded (or whatever quality a gem is claiming to have), can actually make you feel grounded!

I say, buy yourself some pretty crystals! And, realize that there is power in intention, and thinking a certain way. If you set your mind to feeling a sense of calm…you can achieve that state…AND you can either achieve it with a pretty gem, or without!

Just don’t use crystals to try to cure any type of sickness. That’s just nonsense.

You are beautiful.

It’s International Women’s Day! The theme this year is #BalanceForBetter, and focuses on bringing gender equality to the world.

I’d like to bring attention to the crazy standard of beauty that women are held to…and the inequality that is ever-present. It’s certainly a topic that has been talked about ad nauseam. And yet, many of us STILL aspire to look like someone else...to an unattainable ideal. We base our self-worth on our appearance. This sh!t gets old…things need to change. Change can start with you. And me.

Mindfulness is paying purposeful attention. So…if you are hard on yourself for not looking a certain way, or weighing a certain amount…bring some awareness to your thoughts and emotions that come up around this. Bring a little curiosity to the way you react. Give yourself a little compassion, too (sometimes this can be the hardest part!).

I adore this short animation that my daughter sent me. It shows how women’s body ideals have changed so much over time.

So, take some time today to appreciate being YOU. Because, you are beautiful just the way you are.

Stand firm in that which you are.

kabir stand firm poem

This is one of my very favorite poems of all time. I think about all the time I spend with thoughts of “imaginary things”…with conversations I should have, or things I should do.

I recite the phrase, “Just throw away all thoughts of imaginary things, and stand firm in that which you are.” often…it has become a way for me to check in with myself…to make sure I am here now.

I said to the wanting-creature inside me:
What is this river you want to cross?
There are no travelers on the river-road, and no road.
Do you see anyone moving about on that bank, or nesting?

There is no river at all, and no boat, and no boatman.
There is no tow rope either, and no one to pull it.
There is no ground, no sky, no time, no bank, no ford!

And there is no body, and no mind!
Do you believe there is some place that will make the
soul less thirsty?
In that great absence you will find nothing.

Be strong then, and enter into your own body;
there you have a solid place for your feet.
Think about it carefully!
Don't go off somewhere else!

Kabir says this: just throw away all thoughts of
imaginary things,
and stand firm in that which you are. 

The Kabir Book: Forty Four of the Ecstatic Poems of Kabir, Translation by Robert Bly.

Beacon Press, Boston, 1993.

How do you know if someone is vegan?

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It’s one of my favorite jokes…How do you know if someone is vegan? Don’t worry, they TELL you!!

(this joke works for Crossfitters too! haha)

I’m not vegan all the time…but every once & a while I eat a completely plant based diet…no meat, no eggs and NO CHEESE (gah!!). I’ve been known to get on my high horse about how people should eat less meat, and how a plant based diet should be the rule more than the exception.

Really, though…I think it’s most important to pay attention to what you are eating while you are eating it…whether you are eating vegan or not! Sounds simple, right?! But…how many times have you snarfed down a thing of popcorn at the movies, gotten to the end, and wondered where it all went (or, maybe it’s just ME?!). Taking the time to become aware of what you are eating is a way to bring mindfulness practice into your daily life. Try it with one bite of your next meal!

Over the years I’ve found some amazing sites with phenomenal vegan recipes. Thought I’d introduce you to four of my favorites!

Oh She Glows- Everything I have made from Angela Liddon’s blog has been stellar…one of my go-to sites for plant based recipes. Her recipe for a veggie burger is the very best I’ve made! She has written cookbooks too: here and here.


Yum Universe - Another tried and true blog with amazing recipes! I can always count on Heather Crosby’s recipes to be delicious! Here is her cookbook…so many great recipes to choose from.


Minimalist Baker - A great resource for plant based recipes…all of which use 10 ingredients or less. And, of course…there is a cookbook (I don’t have this cookbook yet…but if it’s anything like the blog…it will be great!)


Restorative Kitchen - This is a shameless plug for my cousin-in-law’s new whole food blog. She is awesome, and her recipes are too! Check out her blog!

mindful travel: Galapagos

mindful travel: Galapagos

I wanted a more mindful approach to traveling to the Galapagos. Rather than doing an outrageously expensive cruise, where tourists get more of a "feel" of the ship, and only leave the ship en masse to check out an island for a couple of hours, I wanted to experience life on the islands. I wanted to have the time to go at my own pace, and really take things in.

5 ways to teach a better yoga class.

5 ways to teach a better yoga class.

I just got home from taking what I would consider a terrible yoga class. It was bad on so many different levels. I KNOW, I know, we aren't supposed to be judgmental....but it got me thinking about what I would have told my teacher today, had she asked for input. This doesn't come from a place of ego...there's no "my teaching style is better than yours"....promise! This ultimately comes from a place of concern for the safety of the students in the  yoga class that I took today.